Moving on from an ex is one of the hardest things to do when it comes to the relationship scene. A broken heart makes you feel like the world is against you and your heart has been smashed into a million tiny pieces. Fear not, you can get past this. It may be hard at first but there sure is a silver lining at the end of this tunnel. Here is how to move on from a broken heart:
1)Breathe. Seriously, just take deep breaths. Inhale and exhale and try to bring yourself back to reality whenever your mind just drifts off and you start thinking of the torture you feel. All you can do is survive this first and difficult day when the wound is freshest. Take one day at a time. Give yourself permission to mourn. Call in sick at work, sleep all day, eat too much ice cream, just let the emotions out some way. Constantly tell yourself “This too shall pass” or “I will survive.”
2)Communicate with someone close to you. Reach out to a close friend or family member who you can confide in and spill your woes to. Distract yourself. When attempting to move on, a new distraction is very necessary. Go to the movies, start watching a new serial or throw yourself head on into work. Just find something that takes your mind off the heartbreak.
3)Force yourself to go out even if you are feeling despondent. Take yourself out for a cup of coffee or go on a long walk. Express your emotions in a way that comes naturally. Write in a journal, paint, sculpt or play music. Do daily cardiovascular exercise–the endorphins will give your spirits an immediate lift. Whatever you do, do not call your ex as this will immediately reek of desperation. Visit an old friend or go back home to your roots. A change of environment could just be the medicine you need. Put everything that reminds you of your ex in a box and seal it. Throw it away, donate it to charity or ask a friend to hold on to it indefinitely. Try to stay away from things or places that remind you of him or her.
4)Surround yourself with friends. Make lists to help you regain your confidence and identity: a list of your friends, of things you like, of what you want to accomplish in the next decade. Spoil yourself: Get a new hairstyle, have a spa day or go shopping. Explore new frontiers and possibilities.
5)Engage in regular socializing and exercising. Try and meet new people and reconnect with old friends. While socializing, though, make sure you don’t depend on alcohol or drugs to dull the pain. Resist if you merely want to say hurtful things. Consider dating other people, but be wary of rebound relationships. Understand that you will need to experience and process sadness, anger, guilt and fear to fully heal. Burying or ignoring these emotions will lay waste to the healing process. Write, cry, share the feelings with friends.
6)You may need to see a psychiatrist if you are experiencing symptoms of depression, such as lack of appetite, insomnia or too much sleeping, low self-esteem, and an inability to concentrate or carry out routine tasks. Ask a friend or physician to recommend one who is experienced in treating depression. Sometimes, a broken heart could take such a major toll on some people that they may require professional help.